Long before we realized it our family was on a journey no one wished for …

  It began when our daughter was in middle school. In the beginning it crawled forward at an imperceptible pace. By the time it ended on July 6th 2017 it had completely consumed our lives, our energy, and every ounce Read more…


It Only Takes One Brick at a Time

This note was written only a few days after Laurens 22nd birthday. As I wrote it I had no idea what was going to happen only 4 months and 16 days later. We had a family tradition of taking our Read more…


The Roller Coaster ride Called Addiction

Facing an addiction or loving someone that is feels like the wildest roller coaster you have ever been on. For me as a little kid that roller coaster was called the “Mad Mouse” at a small theme park originally called Read more…


The First Step is the Hardest

Lala’s Notes   In life, change, or addiction the first step is always the hardest. Week 3 of our series Lala’s Notes is from a time that was very challeenging for LaLa. If you would like to receive the email Read more…


Hope for Change is Possible

Lala’s Notes This is the second week of an 8 week series featuring notes I wrote to Lauren over the course of the last year of her life. You can read all about why I started doing this here: The Read more…


A Note of Hope & Encouragement

Lala’s Notes This is the first week of an 8 week series featuring notes I wrote to Lauren over the course of the last year of her life. You can read all about why I started doing this here: The Read more…


Addicts Are Hard to Live Without

If you or someone you know is using drugs of any kind and you do not understand this picture you must read this! This is the last post in a series of the most popular posts from each year (2025) Read more…


What You Know for Sure May Be Hurting You

The most popular post of 2024 may reveal something that could cost you years of pain, and sadly some of your most meaningful relationships. Don’t let that happen! Mark Twain said “It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you Read more…


A Short Personal Rambling and an Important Message

This is the most popular post from 2023. It was a heavy year for me as I was trying to navigate our deep loss. It’s a post that highlights what was so beautiful about my daughter while letting us know Read more…


The Last Words I Got to Say to LaLa

  A SPECIAL INVITATION: Beginning May 1st 2026 each week for eight weeks will highlight the most meaningful “LaLa Notes” of the over 400 notes described in this post. This post was the most popular post of 2022.   These Read more…


There Can Be a Path Home

Someone I love is addicted, now what?